I went to toys r us to buy my niece a female superhero (or even catwoman) for her birthday. I wasn’t able to find anything at all featuring any female comic book character (I asked three different employees for help at separate times as well). I was and still am so so angry. Especially since they would have superhero teams like the avengers with every member but the female one. If it weren’t for me my nieces and nephews probably wouldn’t even know female superheros exist.
Read this passage and then if rape jokes are still funny to you, then I suppose you’re the rapists comrade. I am in no position to say whether or not you have been raped— but if what you say is true… I don’t think you’ll like rape jokes after you read this and the statistics and truth behind it.
"To all those men who don’t think the rape jokes are a problem:
I get it—you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something, or connect you to doing something, that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.
And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right? Especially when it doesn’t mean anything. Rape jokes have never made YOU go out and rape someone. They never would; they never could. You just don’t see how it matters.
I’m going to tell you how it does matter. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person, and that you don’t see the harm. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.
Here is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down…
Because 6% of college-aged men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act—and that’s the conservative estimate. Other sources double that number (pdf).
A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?
They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.
Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.
If one in twenty guys (or more) is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, in a pick-up game of basketball, at a bar, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.
But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another, someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.
Or maybe you didn’t laugh. Maybe it just wasn’t a very funny joke. So maybe you just didn’t say anything at all.
And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed? When you were silent?
That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.
You. The rapist’s comrade.
And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore, not abiding it in your presence, not greeting it with silence…
Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.”
Thank you for your message! I hope that helps and I hope to hear back from you.
A photograph of a hospital bill purporting to show the charges faced by a rape survivor has gone viral after being shared on social media.
The bill, dated 26th July 2012, reveals a total charge of $4,570 to the patient in order to test for and prevent any sexually transmitted infections arising from the act of rape.
The reaction on twitter ranged from sadness…
When I try to be friends with someone and they blow me off. Do you know who I am? Do you know how selective I am with who I spend my time with?
When this shit happens I just don’t talk to that person again. Noone snubs me.
HA! She had to come in my room like always and touch every goddamn thing while asking where my best friend (that she met once weeks ago) is. But my dogs chased her out. I love dogs. So much better than children.